Look 10 Years Younger and 10 Pounds Lighter

We all want that, right??

Believe it or not, I’m not going to tell you to revamp your diet, hire a trainer and sign up to run a half marathon. (Although if you REALLY want to look 10 pounds lighter and 10 years younger…. it’s not a bad idea!)

No, what we’re going to talk about today has nothing to do with diet and exercise. I’ll pause while you all breathe a sigh of relief.

This is much less painful, I promise.

Today we are going to talk about a very delicate subject — one that I get asked about quite a bit and haven’t tackled here on the blog in a very long time, if ever. Are you ready?

Ladies, listen up. Because today we are going to talk about the importance of proper undergarments.

Oh yes, I am going there.

And the men run for the hills.


Pictured above: Yummie Sylvie Seamless Camisole // Spanx Trust Your Thinstincts High Waist Shaper // Wacoal ‘Embrace’ Lace Underwire Molded Cup Bra

Proper undergarments are KEY to good style.

It doesn’t matter how cute your clothes are, if you’re sagging and dragging, ahem, you will look schlumpy. Yes, that’s a technical term.

Wearing the wrong size or old, stretched-out foundation garments will make you look older and heavier than you truly are. Finding the right size and fit will immediately take 10 pounds off, I guarantee it.

How long has it been since you’ve had a professional bra fitting? Have you ever?

It is estimated that something like 80% of women are wearing the wrong size bra. And if you think that’s just a clever marketing ploy, look around. I believe it.

The older we are, the more of a problem it is. Our bodies change, yes, but I think we also put less of a priority on our underwear because, let’s face it, we’re not as cute and perky as we used to be, and it’s just not as much fun to shop for.  

But it must be done.

If you were fitted 10 years ago, before you had kids and when your metabolism was still working for you, you are probably not the same size anymore. As we age and our weight hems and haws, our bodies change. Every woman should get a professional bra fitting every 5 years or with any major body change (weight loss or gain, childbirth, pregnancy, etc.)

How long has it been since you replaced your bras?

Uh-huh. Thought so.

I’m a bad one for this one, I will admit. I wear mine for too long, I know. But experts say that bras that we wear on a regular basis should be replaced every six months. I’ll stretch that to about a year, (haha, stretch… I’m so punny) but after that, it’s time for a new one.

Again, this is not just a brilliant marketing strategy on the part of bra manufacturers. Take a look at the straps on your favorite bra — especially the band that goes around your back. Does the elastic look stretched out and worn? See that? It’s time for a new one.

Have you ever bought the same bra as one you have in your closet and compared the new with the old? These babies don’t hold up for much more than a year of regular use. Once they start to stretch out, they don’t do their job, and the next thing you know, your saggin’ and baggin’.

No one wants that!

Take an afternoon for yourself, go to the mall, ideally go to Nordstrom or a place that provides professional bra fittings, and freshen up your foundation garments with new ones in the right size that put the girls back where they’re supposed to be. Then see how much better your clothes look.

And here’s something else to ponder.

Do you ever wear shapewear?


Pictured above: Spanx Thinstincts Cami // Commando Two-Faced Tech Control Slip // Spanx Tight End Shaping Tights // Spanx Shaper Shorts

There was a time when a lady would not leave the house without a girdle, and that time wasn’t all that long ago. Nowadays, in the name of feminism or comfort or I’m not even sure what, we just let it all hang out.

Why? I do not understand.

The same is true of bra straps and even our underwear. NO ONE WANTS TO SEE THAT, PEOPLE.

Speaking of which, I’ve been asked how I wear tank tops and my bra straps never show. I’m sure they slip out sometimes, but my husband detests seeing bra straps, so he always informs me if mine are visible so I can fix it. But it also takes time and effort to find the right bras for the right tops. I love tank tops so I searched high and low to find a bra with straps that are thin enough to hide in tank tops but that still offers enough support to keep the girls in place. When I found it, I bought 5 of them in 3 different colors. I keep replacing them when they wear out. I don’t mind telling you, this is the bra that I wear under tanktops.

Wacoal 'Embrace' Lace Underwire Molded Cup Bra

Once you find one you love, buy several! I have even been known to buy a few and save them with the tags on until my current ones wear out, in case they get discontinued. If you have a hard time finding bras that work for you, you may want to consider doing that too.

I also only buy tank tops that hide the bra. Depending on your needs, ahem, you may have to wear tanks with wider straps to cover wider bra straps. And you may have to come to terms with the fact that there are certain styles you cannot wear. For example, I never wear spaghetti straps. It’s a sad state of affairs, but I just can’t do it. The most important thing is to find a bra that fits right and gives you the proper support. Then you can find shirts and dresses that cover them properly. If they don’t, then you can’t wear them. Or you have to go in search of appropriate undergarments for a specific outfit.

It’s been years since I’ve worn a halter or a strapless top because I don’t want to mess with a strapless bra. If I had a special occasion that required such a dress, I’d make sure to find the proper undergarments for it.

But I digress.

Back to shapewear . . .

I’m  a huge proponent of shapewear.

I wear shapewear A LOT. Like, almost every time I wear real clothes (as opposed to yoga pants.) I know, people think I’m nuts. I probably should have been born in the 50s. But it’s not as uncomfortable as you might think, and when you get used to it, you almost feel naked without it.

I’ve been asked by a friend to show photos of myself with and without shapewear, and I’m not QUITE ready to go there! But suffice it to say, wearing shapewear can make a huge difference in how your clothes fit and how you look and feel.

If you have an area of your body that you are particularly self-conscious about, consider finding a piece of shapewear to disguise it. For me, it’s my midsection. I have thin limbs, but when I gain weight, it goes right to my middle, making me feel lumpy and dumpy. A lumpy middle is aging, so I have resorted to wearing the Kymaro Cami under, well, almost everything!

This is my best kept secret. Are you ready for it?


(And no, THAT IS NOT ME IN THE PHOTO!!! Just wanted to clarify that.)

I like how the Kymaro Cami sits underneath the bra so it doesn’t reshape your chest area. You can actually remove the clear straps entirely, and tuck the tabs under your bra, and it stays in place. It’s more comfortable that way, as those plastic straps do dig into your shoulders a bit, and they are visible in tank tops. I used to only remove them when I wore tanks, but now I never use the straps.

If that one’s not for you, there are SO many options out there nowadays. It’s all about finding what works for you. Spanx has TONS of shapewear options that tackle every problem area, and some that manage several areas at once.

Another shapewear piece I love is the Nina Shaping Shorts by Yummie. These are great under dresses in the summertime. They just have light support, which is usually all I want or need for casual wear.

In the wintertime, I LOVE Spanx Tights under dresses. They are awesome for holding everything in place, and the tights are completely opaque so you can’t see through them.

Finally, let’s talk about panty lines.

You don’t want ’em. Do what you have to do, ladies, to avoid the panty lines.

And that’s all I’m gonna say about THAT!


  1. says

    Unfortunately I believe I have reached that age were I need to invest in some shapewear. Not exactly something I want to do but it must be done.

    I have always struggled with where to find good quality bras because I am such an odd size. And being a young mom I did want “cute” bras. I’ve since come to the realization that I need proper support more than “cute”. And alas what did I find? While not exactly cute they do have them in more colors than black, white & neutral. I can live with that. :)

  2. says

    THANK YOU!! :) Great job! I’m all over the bra situation, but I’m downright ashamed of my undies. I needed a prompt to go take care of that. I also wonder: should we favor undies that cover well and support well, but are not cute and sexy, or should we succumb to our hubbies’ gentle requests, and buy cutesie undies that roll down in the front and don’t cover in the back. Care to address that one? haha :) I also need to look into the shapewear stuff, in a big way, esp. for winter. I want to check out those tights you mentioned. THANK you, JL :)

  3. says

    Great advice. I need to update my bra collection. It’s even harder when you’re navigating nursing ups and downs. I just wish shapewear was made of more natural materials. Sometimes I don’t love what it does to the nether regions. Ya know?

  4. says

    I discovered Spanx when I was shopping for mother-of-the-groom and mother-of-the-bride dresses. Yes. Multiple dresses. Four of my children got married within 14 months. Crazy! LOVE Spanx!

    I have lost 65 pounds in the past year (with more left to lose). While it is so exciting to have lost so much weight, there is still flabby skin to worry about. I wear my Spanx Cami nearly every day, and it makes me feel soooo…. much thinner and trimmer. Oh.My.Yes.

    I went in last month to buy a smaller Spanx (oh yea!) and they were having a buy one get one half off sale. They didn’t have any more in the size and style that I wanted, so I picked up one of their less binding tank top styles. I am looking forward to wearing it under my other tank tops when the weather heats up a bit. (In the Pacific NW we get our hot summer weather in July, August, and September.)

    THANK YOU for speaking out about bra straps and panty lines. I feel sooo… old fashioned (or just plain old) when I tell my teen daughters that there is no need to see their bra straps . . . no need for spaghetti straps . . . a need for wider tank top straps.

    Love your blog. Love your fashion. You are encouragement for us Mama’s that will never look 20 again, but want to look our very best at 50.

    mama of 12

  5. says

    I know it is time to buy new bras, but I hate bra shopping SO MUCH. And of course they are no longer selling my favorite style. Everything has some kind of padding now, and padding is the absolute last thing I need. Sigh.

  6. Jen T says

    You know I now want to look at every single picture of you on your blog, lol.

    How do you not sweat to death? Especially at games?

    • says

      I don’t wear shapewear to outside events when it’s hot out; I just choose an outfit that doesn’t require it.

      Sounds like I’ve created a new game – every photo the question is “Is she or isn’t she?” {wearing shapewear, that is} LOL!

  7. says

    I’ve done the same thing – buying extras of my favorite bra and keeping them aside until the current ones wear out. My favorite and best-fitting bra got discontinued so now it is time for me to go on the search for the perfect bra (for me) again….

  8. says

    Confession- I do not own ANY shapewear. However, with my thirties behind be (gulp!) I think its time to invest in some. At least I will know what to look for now!

  9. says

    I keep saying I need a for-real bra fitting someday. When I’m done nursing this 3rd and final baby… it’s the first thing on my to do list!

  10. Wendy says

    Take a look at Chicago Tribune fashion writer Ellen Warren’s July 7th article on the new line of Hanes bras. Not quite shape wear, just bras but a whole new system for better fit. Though i havent tried them i really want to. All of Ellen’s articles are great. And I’m a big fan of Soma Intimates.

  11. says

    I am completely embarrassed to say how long it has been since I have bought a new undergarment. Too long! And, this shapewear…something I seriously need to look into. This was the perfect post for me to read right now. Off to shop:)

  12. says

    I love Lipo in a Box products but I don’t wear shapewear very often unless I am going to a big event. (Full disclosure here the co. Lipo in a Box is owned by a friend – ….her products are on QVC.) I have this high waist control “short” in black and love it! She’s just come out with a new bra/ half cami top combo item that you can wear under a sweater and not feel bulky. http://www.qvc.com/Lipo-in-a-Box-Original-Firm-Control-High-WaistShort.product.A323676.html?refType=IOFFER&refNumber=A183625&sc=A323676-DTLR&cm_sp=UPSELL-_-IOFFER-_-1&relType=IOFFER&refLocation=1

  13. says

    Looks like I need to head out shopping soon! I love fitted but not tight shirts but I think I need a little shapewear to keep everything where it belongs.. Thanks!

  14. says

    Great post! I agree that proper foundations of under garments makes your outfit drape better on you. That reminds me that I want to try a new shape wear line called Hooked Up Shape Wear. Have you heard of this line before? Thanks for hosting the link up! New follower here :)

  15. Amy Ann says

    Okay I am loving this post! Thanks for sharing your secrets. Isn’t is crazy the difference a well fitting bra can make?! After I lost some weight several years ago, I got fitted and was really surprised. I don’t wear much shapewear because the last time I tired it was bulky and uncomfortable, but I think it has come a long way in since then (about 7 years ago). I totally agree about the panty line thing!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  16. says

    This is a great post! We all need to upgrade ours soon! I have my professional bra fitting done about 6 years ago. Since then I only use one brand and it never let me down. It is the key to make me younger. I think I may need a new fitting soon due to gaining some weight. 😉

    Thank you so much for hosting this for us and have a great weekend!


  17. Joyce says

    I started buying my bras at Soma a few years ago, pricey but soooo worth it! I too am a huge fan of shapewear; thanks for the tip on the Yummie shaping shorts (BTW they’re on sale at Nordstrom 2 for $30)…I’m hoping they don’t strangle my thighs like other brands I’ve tried. Wish me luck! Happy FriYAY!

      • Joyce says

        Finally received my Yummie shaping shorts. I ordered them in a medium and small they just didn’t seem to do much so I think I’ll stick with Spandx In-Power Mid-Thigh Shaper, sucks in my thighs and hips. On a lighter note, I also ordered several cami shapers…OMG, I’m sweating from trying to pull them down over my chest and I think I pulled a muscle in my back. Needless to say, these don’t work for me either.

        • says

          LOL!!! First, the cami shapers do loosen up after you wear them a few times. I always pull mine on over my feet and up, rather than putting them on over the head. But yeah, sometimes I feel like it’s a workout just to get my clothes on. It’s frustrating, but I hate that belly budge more so I keep on keeping on. 😉

          As far as the Yummies. You’re right, they don’t have a lot of support. I just like how they smooth everything out, don’t create any lines or ridges at the waist, and give me some measure of modesty if my skirt flies up. :-)

  18. DonnaS says

    It’s times like these when I wish I were a man! They never worry about their lumps and bumps showing–how unfair! But I guess I will have to bite the bullet and try some shapewear :)

  19. says

    I am not a fan of shapewear. Perhaps I have never found the right brand. It rolls up or slips down and causes a look that is worse than NOT wearing shapewear. Instead, I did a Whole 30 eating plan for 45 days and lost my tummy bulge. :) Now I am trying to figure out what would be comfortable and light to wear under skirts this summer–not for shaping, just for coverage if the wind blows. I used to wear something called Skimmies, I think, perhaps from Jockey. In the desert it can be 105 degrees AND windy.

    • says

      Yeah, when it’s hot, I don’t wear it as much. I admit! :-) And getting off carbs/sugar/processed foods helps SO much. I wish I was disciplined enough to live like that ALL the time.

      I do recommend trying the Yummie shaping shorts – they’re not restrictive at all. And I also heard great things about Skimmies.

  20. Alicia says

    I cannot recommed Soma for bra fitting enough! The saleswomen are very well trained and I have had best fittings ever. I love their bras, and no lines panties so much.

  21. says

    Great article. Something crazy happened to my body after I hit 40 and post baby of course. I just ordered that cami so hopefully that will help hide my muffin top! Thanks for sharing!!

  22. Carolyn says

    I would love a traditional style shapewear cami. One without the clear straps. Like the two pictured above in your post. The black and nude colored ones. Can you tell me what they are and possibly share a link for those.

    Thanks so much!

  23. Lisa Harper says

    As I have watched my body change since the Menooause of life gradually tapped on my door 4 1/2 years ago, I thank the good Lord for spandex and elastic. Each day it seems being able to wear flattering clothes becomes harder, yet the many designs and varieties of body shape wear bring positive rewards. Thank you for reminding us all we can continue to look beautiful no matter our size or shape.

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