You may have heard that Works For Me Wednesday has a new home over at We Are THAT Family. I had the privilege of meeting Kristen at Blissdom, and she is just lovely. This week she wants us to share the tip that has helped us the most so I went back through my archives, and I thought this one bears repeating. Back in February of 2007, Shannon asked us to:
Share with us the best relationship advice you can give. Or, share with us some ideas for making Valentine’s Day special for your sweetie or your kids.
Here is what I said:
I’m gonna choose the option #1, although I’m not sure I’m best qualified to give relationship advice this week. If I were giving advice based on lessons I’ve learned over the past 24 hours, it would go something like this:
1) Don’t shove all three kids at the husband the minute he walks in the door and say something like, “Good, your home. They’re all yours.” Guys don’t take too kindly to that. They seem to think they need time to unwind after a long day at work. What’s that all about, anyway? I thought that’s what that 30-minute commute was for.
2) When the husband calls from work at the witching hour and excitedly tells you about some new job responsibility and opportunity for professional growth and recognition, try to show some interest. As opposed to interrupting him to yell at the kids and then asking grumpily what time he plans to get home.
As helpful as I’m sure that is to you, I’ve tried to come up with some of the bigger lessons I’ve learned over the last 12 years of marriage. These are nothing is new or unusual, but it took me some time to get it down pat, so maybe it will be helpful to someone.
So here we go. The best relationship advice I have to offer:
1) Take at least 15 minutes every day and sit down together and talk. Really listen to what the other has to say. Relationships need time to refuel.
2) Don’t try to change him (or her). Focus on the qualities you like about your partner, try to remember the reasons you fell in love in the first place. And then overlook the rest. It’s amazing what changing your attitude about someone can do for a relationship.
3) Swallow your pride. Learn to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry.” Why is it SO HARD to say these words to the people we love the most?
Got something to add? Give us your best relationship advice.
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