Nineteen years ago, a 23-year-old elementary school teacher married a Philly boy and moved away from her childhood home forever.
I barely resemble that girl today, and it’s not just because I had the good sense to grow out my bangs.
Being married grows you and tests you in ways that nothing else can. Over the past 19 years, I have discovered many things about myself and about partnering with someone for life. For instance.
- It is possible to experience raging anger one minute and passionate adoration the next — for the same person.
- It’s easier to ask forgiveness than permission; but I wouldn’t recommend taking that approach.
- Tent camping is a lot more fun than it sounds.
- I’m not as high maintenance as I thought I was. (Or at least, I wasn’t until age and gravity started to catch up with me.)
- My body is capable of carrying and sustaining a life, and then pushing a 7-pound bowling ball out of a 1-inch tunnel. Three times.
- Child rearing will put your marriage relationship to the test; always present a united front.
- It doesn’t get easier; it just gets different.
- If you want a hot shower, get up early.
- Parenting is not for the faint of heart. See #5. And #6. And #7. And for that matter, #8.
- There is nothing quite as endearing as seeing your spouse mirrored in your offspring.
- I can run 13.1 miles and live to tell about it.
- And you do, in fact, never forget how to ride a bike.
- Love is a verb.
- Choose your battles wisely. This goes for any relationship — marriages, kids, friendships, co-workers…
- Life is a lot easier when you choose to find the humor in the hard times.
- It’s true that what goes around comes around, so extend grace when at all possible.
- Never underestimate the value of having someone in your court at all times.
- Be good to each other because if you aren’t, someone else will be.
- For better or for worse isn’t as romantic as it sounds, but it’s worth the effort.
My life’s lessons haven’t always been the ones I expected and certainly weren’t the ones I would have chosen, but I wouldn’t I wouldn’t change who I am today for anything in the world, and there’s no one else I’d want to do this life with than this guy.